We moved 2 homes into one and it reminded of the many stresses of the first year with twins. Still, I would say the first year with twins is harder than moving. We need an armor of peace to make it through.
This week, we moved into our new home. We purchased my husband’s childhood home and his parents purchased our old home (which we bought from his grandma when she passed). Yes we are thankful for this blessing, just like we were thankful for our twin blessings and at the same time we are overwhelmed.
Anyhoo, it felt like we were moving 2 homes into 1 home…and we did move/switch 2 homes, so it was kinda crazy. The whole moving 2 homes process, reminded me of bringing 2 babies home when our twin girls were born.
P.S. Hi, I am Tracy sharing my journey as a mom of twin girls plus one boy. Your Twin Mom is a place to uplift you in faith, family tips, and fun ideas so you can enjoy your twin families! I’m also sharing my dream journey of writing my first children’s book, “Zoe in Double Trouble” (a positive spin on the first year with twins) to inspire all busy moms we can listen to our hearts and follow our dreams alongside motherhood!
I took a picture of that first day in our new home. It was a moment I had a hard time finding peace.
A great scripture one of our twin moms from our “Your Twin Mom Group” on facebook, shared:
“And He will be our Peace”.
It’s so simple, but it is showing us how God will be our peace, no matter how crazy everything seems around us.
As a twin mom and a mom moving, I felt a lot of the same feelings from the first year with twins, like: unsure; exhausted with no rest in sight; unsure of what the future holds; will we be able to do this and have a peaceful home again?; and fearful of whether this was too much for our family.
Here are some ways God helped me find Peace in Mom Chaos:
Patient 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 (sometimes counting in a hard moment helps)….Since having twins, I’ve started to pray anytime & anywhere over any situation (including tantrums or arguments with loved ones).
Express your feelings and needs to God with humility, knowing that He will carry you through your feelings and bring you back to faith. I love that with God, He already knows me and understands my heart, so I don’t have to explain and try to say the right things to Him, I can just let it out from where I am in my feelings-whether I’m exhausted, overwhelmed, unsure, or feeling hurt.
Ask for guidance from God, to help you know what to say or do next. When my husband and I got into a disagreement about how clean the house should be, my feelings were hurt and I wanted to continue to be angry. So, I stopped, and just kinda stood still in the kitchen that night, just asking God to take the bad feelings. Then I went and prayed on my own for God to guide me what to say to my husband so we could move forward and after a good night of sleep, He did. He brought peace to this situation in our home. I’m sure this cleaning thing will be re-visited, so I will re-visit God every time I need peace in the conversation.
Count on God and trust Him to give you what you need to move forward. Sometimes we count on people to always say the right thing or give us what we need and I have found that God is always the one who I can come to and leave with unconditional love. He is consistently loving. It’s not that I can’t trust others, its just that we are all human and sometimes we are not speaking how God hopes we speak to each other and that can lead is in another direction. So, I have found it is helpful to check in with God, especially when I have lots of emotions…then I come away with a clearer view and feel like I can be more help to others and my family.
Enjoy the roses, and see the small moments that are big blessings in motherhood. Taking pictures like this one of my girls smelling the roses, helps me see the beautiful gifts that are planted in motherhood. It helps me see that the circumstances around us are all temporary and these relationships with our family, and quality time with our kids…those are everlasting.
Some questions to ask yourself when you are not at Peace:
What are your triggers?
Triggers: tired, needs not met, feeling misunderstood, too much to do,
What do you need?
Sometimes, I just need quiet time to process my thoughts with God and read a devotional, like “The Confident Woman” by Joyce Meyer. I am not an affiliate but I love her uplifting devotional. I know quiet time is hard to come by, so I choose it in any spare time I get. Now, that my twins are 4 and and toddler is 2, they sleep a little longer so I can have 20 minutes in the morning:) Ideally, I would get up earlier but that’s where I am for now.
How can you get that need met or is it something you will need to pray for God to give you?
Like when we are not at peace because we are tired, but we know we will be the ones up all night with our kids, ask God to give you the rest you need. Making sure I get my hair done and attend my doctor appointments, makes me feel like I am taking care of myself and getting my needs met. So, that is when I ask my husband or family or trusted neighbor friends to watch the kids so I can meet my self-care appointment needs.
Is this a realistic expectation of myself in the season I am in?
Last week, I talk about feeling like I am a messy mom, because the house is hard to keep up with in this busy young children season I am in. It turned out that even 3 house cleaners (without 3 kids crawling at their feet) cannot keep up with it. I just needed honest, open conversations with my husband about how to reach our house needs as a team since this is a time with our kids having many needs as well (plus it is a time I want to enjoy my babies).
A Prayer for Peace in Mom Chaos:
We thank you that You are a glorious God and you love us so much.
We just pray and ask for your peace. We ask you to help us see the blessings in our circumstances.
We ask you to shield us busy moms with an armor of peace protection from the enemy’s negativity.
Thank you so much for loving every single part of us, even when we are overwhelmed.
Thank you that we can come to you in any circumstance and give you our feelings.
We love being moms of our families, we just need you to guide us in every step of the way to live in love and be at peace in our hearts. Help us to feel your peace presence when it feels like our world is falling apart.
Thank you dear Lord for all of your goodness. We know you are with us every step of the way.
In Jesus’ name we pray,