Messes are normal, so give yourself grace mom! You’re doing a great job! God knows the messes of motherhood.
God’s right there putting it in your heart to be connect with your kids, because you will take those relationships with you into eternity. The messes will stay here. Still we do need to clean up and teach our kids, so here’s what has helped me clean up after 3 busy preschoolers!
P.S. Hi! I am Tracy Murdock, writer and teacher made mom to twins plus one sharing faith, family, and fun to uplift more twins and twin families. I’m also sharing my dream of writing a children’s book journey:)
Helping Kids Learn to Clean Up:
1. Set a timer: How much can we clean in 2 minutes or practice counting to 25 together!
2. Declutter time of day: We have 2 main times of day, so I don’t feel like I am cleaning all day:) One time at night before bed, or before lunch.
3. Designated helper: show them importance in how they can clean too. We have a helper of the day: set the table, feed the dog.
4. Realistic Task: It really helps to be realistic about what the kids can do at their age. Yes at a certain age you will be doing most of the cleaning, but they can still learn the skill (i.e. put all these toys in this basket).
Jack loves to scrub the dishes next to me while I do dishes, so this makes doing dishes take longer, but it prevents him from making a mess in the bathroom and it helps him learn responsibility.
5. Have something desirable coming up after cleaning:First clean, then we have lunch or a cartoon break or outside time.
6. Name each one with a specific clean up task, like I’ll say, “Hailey you can be in charge of the barbie box.” Even if they weren’t the one who made the mess, it is a helping family atmosphere we are trying to create.
7. Quick Clean up: Toy chests and Bins are super helpful for us! I’ve heard people rotate bins daily…that’s a little tricky with 3 kids with 3 interests but I do have a subject every day that I do teach them for at home preschool, so that helps in some ways:)
Remember making messes is how we learn, especially for our young kids. SO, it’s okay. Here we are making a mess with Fun Food Friday Breakfast cookies by Beyond Fit Mom.
Even though this was messy, I knew in the moment I could only handle a little mess, so instead of getting everything out in a big mixing bowl-I had Matilda and Hailey mix it in a bag:)
Some of my favorite things other moms and women have said to me about messes:
“You dust one day, and it’s back the next. The children will not be little forever.” ( June: a family member who has cleaned her home for over 30 years)
“They (the kids) live here too.” (Sheri: a grown up twin who lives next door to me and who is also a mom)
“I don’t know why I always worried so much about the mess.” ( a recently empty-nester mom missing the little days)
God bless you moms in the trenches of messy motherhoods! We’re all a mess in one way or another, only God can be mess free…but remember those messes bring us closer to Him:)
Thank you and how do you help your kids learn to clean up?